FIFTY IS NIFTY

FIFTY IS NIFTY

FIFTY IS NIFTY
I’m fifty this year, and I have a black eye. No, my boyfriend Bill didn’t slap me around. My dog, who I was securing to a post, did see another dog. She decided to say hello to said dog, and took the post with her. On her way, the post had serious contact with my face. Fifty and I have bruises on my shins from soccer. Half a century old, and my nails are jagged from wall climbing at the gym. I’m a fifty year old mother of three, who the day after yoga climbs out of bed, just a little bit slowly because I’m sore. I still wake up without an alarm clock and it’s never the same time, probably because I never go to bed at a specific hour.

Some days, it’s from exhaustion at 9pm right after I put my nine year old to sleep. Some days, my mind won’t shut down and I sit and journal till my hand cramps or my eyes droop shut. Some days, I get distracted, and stop at my computer to look at a school project, my board fundraising event, a soccer team management issue, or, I know I shouldn’t, but sometimes it’s just regular work. If Bill can’t be there curled up in bed with me, a good night call is the next best thing to close my day.

I am slowing down, it may not seem like it, but I do say no, a bit more often. My older children say they don’t notice, but I do. I’ve come to realize it’s not being busy that matters, but what I am doing and whom I am doing it with, that matters most. Keeping my perspective on life is about balance, I’m working towards it, but I’m not perfect, yet.

Taking things day by day, moment by moment, is the first step. It’s easier now that there’s only one child left at home. Or maybe it’s because I have become wiser or more relaxed. Yesterday, after climbing at the gym with Shane, we came home bushed. It was our last day of Spring Break. We decided, instead of making a full-fledged meal, we would to take the easy route. Opened the refrigerator door wide, looked inside, and started pulling out stuff to hand to my son. First; a slice of pizza wrapped in foil, next a Tupperware of grilled chicken, some bacon from breakfast, finally fresh spinach and carrots. It was a mish mash of food.

We decided to treat ourselves to “dinner and a movie” in the rec room. Normally, we eat in the kitchen, at the counter, sans distractions. Having warmed, assembled and plated our leftovers, we grabbed drinks and headed for the basement. We flipped through the options and rather quickly agreed to watch the Rise of the Guardians. I have no idea what rating Rotten Tomatoes gave the movie, we normally check, but decided to wing it. Living on the edge, it was daring. In between, eating, doing a load of laundry, (I still couldn’t totally let go and be irresponsible) we snuggled, Shane, Madison (the boxer who blackened my eye) and I. We laughed, we were moved, I mean after all it’s a kid’s movie, there have to be educational moments. Didn’t matter that dinner wasn’t perfect, and at 50, I’m not either.

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11 thoughts on “FIFTY IS NIFTY

  1. Betsy says:

    Great piece. I agree, it’s about enjoying the rise and not worrying about the things that don’t need to be worried about.

  2. I really enjoyed this. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  3. marti says:

    hey mel, love it, and i forgot you were 50 this year! sorry to hear about your eye though. 😦

  4. vpenny23 says:

    You got it, fifty is fabulous! We have earned the ability to slow down and enjoy the sweet, simple moments.

  5. I’ve got a few years until 50, but the slowing has begun already! Ever since I blew out my back, I’ve been more aware of having to make different choices, about knowing what my body can and cannot handle, about knowing who I want to spend my time with and who is toxic for my psyche. I’m glad you are slowing down a bit, but I’m guessing Shane is going to keep you hopping your a long time! 🙂

    • mavmel says:

      I didn’t see your comment till now, but you are right, body parts are not the same, sigh. Totally hear you about selecting the people who are healthy for me to be around. Shane does keep me young, or at least trying to keep up with him keeps me moving 🙂

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